Today's post is for my married and almost married peeps! I was thinking the other day about how long my hubby and I have been married. Y'all, it's about to be 20 years. Yep, 2-0! I know some of you are like, "Dang, that's forever!" While some of my more seasoned couples are like "Y'all, have a long ways to go...lol!"
At each milestone, we look back over our life together and reminisce over the good, the bad and even the ugly. We talk about how we've grown up with one another and have witnessed each other grow through situations that have shaped us into the man and woman that we are today. At the end of our analysis, we high-five ourselves and rejoice that we can honestly say that we are still friends!
My hubby and I have had some pretty amazing celebrations throughout our marriage and accomplished wonderful things together, but it didn't come without our share of "hmmm…I didn't sign up for this!" trials and tribulations. So, I feel it's my duty to share with those of you who are on this road, or thinking about heading this direction, a few things that has helped and continues to help us navigate our way through our marital journey.
So, here it is - the secret to a long-lasting marriage - DRINK, STEAL, DIE and LIE throughout your marriage. That's it! Ok, wait a minute before you delete this post or call me crazy. Allow me to break, break, break it down for you.
DRINK from the cup of knowledge and wisdom of others who have walked this path and are doing it well. I encourage you to talk to those who have successful marriages, those who have made it through some things. I promise you will gain so much insight from listening to their journey. Pay attention to how they describe their stories and testimonies. The secret is in the details.
STEAL away to nurture your relationship and your spirit. Continue to date one another and think of the small things that make your spouse happy. Take a break from the hustle and bustle of your surroundings and spend quality time together. This also goes for you. You can't be your best self when your spirit is running on empty. Steal moments to recharge your own battery and pour into yourself.
DIE to yourself regularly. This is one of the toughest for us all (I know it was for me). We don't always have to win an argument, even when you're right. We don't always have to have the last word even if it's a zinger. Sometimes extending the other person grace is the best thing you can do in the midst of a storm. Recognize that your way may not always be the best way. Consider listening to the advice your spouse gives you and APPLY it. Apologize when you are wrong or have caused your spouse pain. Don't let your pride get in the way of your happiness.
LIE down at night and pray for and with each other. Pray for each other even when you're not "besties" at the time. Continuously ask God to be at the center of your marriage and to blow new life into it each day.
Marriage takes constant time, effort and attention to maintain the joy and excitement in it. It's not something you tend to every now and again. Find new ways to keep it fresh and fun. It's also important to remember that your marriage is unique to you and your spouse and should never be compared to anyone else's. The comparison game can only end up with a losing team and the painful prize of a miserable marriage.