Let's talk about the weight behind the two little letters that spell the powerful word "NO". There is so much power in this small word, but yet we are so afraid to use it and hear it. I believe this word has been totally misunderstood and needs to be re-introduced to some of us to help shift our perception of it.
Because many of us have heard this word during the pursuit of what we deemed an incredible opportunity or the pitch of an innovative life-changing idea, it has left us feeling a bit deflated and has caused us to avoid it at all cost. Some of us are also afraid to use it, when we so desperately need to, in fear of the receiving party's response to it. We fear that those two letters, N-O, will somehow have the people in our lives disappointed in us, or have our friendship requests revoked.
Let's take a deeper dive into this word and see if we can't embrace it a little more.
The "No" that Opens Doors
Think about the last time you were on the receiving side of the word "No" Was it a job opportunity you were diligently pursuing? A business you were attempting to start? A person you were longing to date? Or an idea you were feverishly pitching? Whatever the "no" was the answer to, it was probably very mportant to you at the time. But, think about it. Really think about it. This "no" could have been the best thing to have ever happened to you. It could have closed off a door that did not lead you to the possibilities that God had in store for you. It could have prevented you from walking truly into your God-determined destiny. Sure, it probably stung a little bit. Ok, maybe it hurt a lot! But the fact of the matter is that another door may have just opened because of it.
God is so amazing to me. He knows exactly when to help us get out of our own way. He simply shuts a door that could have possibly led us to distraction or destruction. The "no" that closes the door on one opportunity may just be the "no" that opens a door to your greatest possibility or to a new life season in your personal journey. Embrace it.
The "No" that Provides Balance
Have you ever heard the phrase "No is a complete sentence"? Well, if you haven't, let me be the first to introduce you to this powerful phrase. Some of us really need to include the word "no" into the rotation of our vocabulary words more often. If you're anything like my former self, someone who said "yes" way more than I should have, then you'll relate to what I'm about to drop on you.
Often times we find ourselves incredibly busy and extremely drained by all the various roles that we play in our lives. Granted some of these roles are starring roles that only you can play in your life and that you
would never allow to be played by a stunt double. While other roles are ones that we have attached ourselves to out of sheer guilt and a sense of obligation to someone or something we're fond of. It's time to re-examine where you use your "yes" and your "no". It's time to create some balance in your world. If you're consistently answering the call to every cause or signing up for every ask, you need to embrace the power of "NO" and get past the reactions of other people. You don't have to totally remove yourself
from everything and fire off "no" before someone gets the words out of their mouth, but you do need to begin to be intentional about where you invest your "yes".
Here are a few tips I put into rotation in my own life to embrace the power of "no".
Seek the wise counsel of the Lord to help you create balance in your life. Ask Him to guide your steps in the direction that He would have you go and to give you the courage to decline invitations that stand to disrupt the balance in your life.
Give yourself permission to be comfortable with your "no"
You don't have to provide a lengthy explanation; your "no" will do just fine. The moment you get into
providing lengthy explanations to get yourself out of something, you might just find yourself talked right back into it.
Allow other people to step up and shine.
You don't have to do everything all the time. If you sit back long enough someone else will step up to the
Examine where you invest your “yes”.
What are those things that you've said "yes" to in your life? Are they valuable investments of your time? If you can honestly answer this question, you might find that you can simply create balance by removing a few things you've said "yes" to that are barriers to your balance. There is a season for everything.