Ok, Sisters let's talk!
I realize the subject of women hating on other women is not new and many have written, blogged and even posted YouTube videos about this popular, but ever so sad, topic. But, I thought I would join the conversation with my own spin and perspective.
I'd like to first start by asking you to marinate on a couple of questions for just a minute. But I need you to be truthful. Ok?
When was the last time you encouraged, empowered or excitedly embraced the journey of a woman that was living out her purpose and REALLY MEANT IT? (I mean really meant it. Not a dry "good job" or half-hearted "You go girl" covered with hidden under tones of jealousy.)
I believe that if we're all being real with ourselves we each can say that we've done both the encouraging and maybe some of the discouraging, even if it was just our private thoughts. But the question really is which one do you do more often? While our intentions are to encourage and empower the woman to the left and to the right of us, sometimes our emotions take over and lead us to the fountain of "Haterade". And truth be told, some of us stay there way too long!
I'm sure some of you have found yourselves on the receiving end of someone's hurtful, harsh words about you and had no idea why you were the chosen target, but can undoubtedly explain how this made you feel. So, why do we consistently see this happening? What is the root cause? And more importantly, how will each of us hold ourselves accountable for putting an end to it?
In one of John Maxwell's books I'm reading he says, "We treat people how we feel about ourselves". That's an incredibly powerful statement. It's time to really examine what's going on in your heart. Usually, when people feel inadequate or discontent with their situation, they begin to project those feelings on to other people in an effort to deflect the focus off of them. Starting to sound familiar? You're not alone, my sister.
If you're finding it tough to be on the encouraging side of another woman, then I pray that you spend some real quality time with yourself and your Heavenly Father soul searching. This chat may be well overdue, but it's no time like the present to make it happen. Sister, what lie have you or others convinced you is true about you and your current situation? It's time you believe what God says about you. God created each of us for His divine purpose and we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. From the top of your head to the bottom of your feet; you are His work of art!
My challenge to each woman today, tomorrow and continuously is to pour into the life of another woman. Despite how you may feel about what's going on in your life right now, encourage, embrace, and empower a sister that you know and some that you don't. Send her a heart-felt note, post something inspirational on her social media page, call her and remind her that she is God's incredible masterpiece or simply give her a sincere compliment. You're encouragement may just push someone into the next level of her life, while at the same time shift the balance of your perspective on your own.
We live in a world that consistently tells us that who we are is not enough. As women, we don't need to perpetuate or add to this lie. So, please, let's stop hating on one another and start hoping for each other.